It's completely obvious to everyone else. All your girlfriends are telling you to go for it. All his buddies are giving you MASSIVE hints. But you're still scratching your head in the corner trying to read the signs whether a guy likes you or LIKES you (big L baby).
Sound like a familiar story?
Every last female on the face of our magnificent planet has scratched her head and asked herself the age-old question of “what are the signs a guy likes you?” at least once (and Googled it at least 500 times). Confidence and having a life have nothing to do with it – we all question ourselves every now and then, especially when it comes to guys.
The beginning of a relationship can be tricky, especially attempting to decipher the signs a guy likes you. As much as they hate to admit it, guys play games too, and I’m not talking about Chess or Fantasy Football. Sometimes, dudes are confusing!
Well ladies, what can I say – thank your lucky little stars for Facebook, Twitter and Instagram. Without them, we’d be in the garden tearing out petals like our grandmas – “He loves me, he loves me not.”
Signs A Guy Likes You In The Digital Age
Learn how to master these modern day tools of romance, and you’ll be reading the 10 sure-fire signals that scream “let’s take it to the next level” in no time! (No petals involved!)
1. He Asks You Questions
When you send him a message, does he respond with a question? If so, this is a tantalizing clue that he’s done his personal development homework and knows that asking questions is a GREAT way to keep the conversation flowing and find out more about you. Whether he is asking you what you’re doing over the weekend, what your thoughts are about an important news story, or what’s on your play list, asking you SOMETHING shows a genuine interest. On a side note, if he asks you how to score a date with your best friend; send him packing. NEXT!
2. He Replies To Your Messages Promptly
In the era of WhatsApp, that whole ‘waiting three days to respond’ rigmarole is redundant. He knows that you can see that he has read your message, and if he likes you then he isn’t going to keep you waiting because he WANTS to write to you. No girls, he doesn’t have to reply immediately (hey, we’ve all got other stuff going on), but if he is into you, he will make it a habit to respond pretty darn fast. Obviously, everyone has busy lives and little annoying things called “work” or “school”, so don’t freak if once in a while he takes his sweet old time.
3. He Follows You On Instagram
Now, it’s fine to be friends with everyone you have ever met on Facebook, but Instagram is a different story. Unless you’re a super star photographer and he’s admiring your landscapes, he’s following you on Instagram because he’s scrolling through all of your selfies and giving them a big ol’ heart. If your account is set up under an obscure name and he manages to find you, then it’s a pretty tell tale sign that he’s curious and hot to trot.
4. He Sends You Unnecessary Texts
Does he text you out of the blue, with a random message saying just thinking of you? One of the key signs a guy likes you is this kind of solid proof he’s got you on his mind when you aren’t around. A text to say a song came on the radio that reminded him of you, that he’s reading a book that he thinks you might like, or that he just remembered something you said and laughed out loud on the bus are all “green means go” signals. You might be thinking, “but I send those messages to people all the time!” Yes, but you’re a girl. Unlike you, guys don’t just “chat” with anyone. They chat with people they LIKE. In this case, you!
5. He Sends You Nonchalant Snapchats Throughout The Day
If he sends you private Snapchats of what he’s eating for lunch or a new pair of shoes that he just bought, then he is probably most likely, definitely interested in you. In fact, he’s already acting like a boyfriend by making you a part of his everyday life.
But be warned ladies, I’m not referring to vulgar or immature images (yes, we have all received some of those “gems”). Instead I’m talking about when he is motivated to share casual day-to-day elements of his life with you.
6. He Texts You Just To Say ‘Good Morning’
Do you ever wake up to find a text from simply saying ‘Good Morning’? Hmmmm this means that you are the first thing on his mind when he pulls back the covers. Yep, you guessed it, a great sign that he would prefer having you next to him under the sheets.
7. He Shares Something That Interests You On Facebook
One of the key signs a guy likes you is if you log onto your Facebook to see that he’s shared something on your wall that actually interests you. It might be something as mundane as the latest music video from your favorite band, but it’s actually a fantastic sign that he is invested in trying to get to know you and your interests – and he wants you to know it.
8. He Writes You Long Messages
Whether over a text, Facebook messenger, or WhatsApp, he doesn’t hold back when communicating with you. If he sends long and detailed messages, rather than just a simple response, you’re in like Flynn. On a side note, a stream of one-word replies should be an obvious sign that you need to cool it, you’re not getting anywhere baby.
9. He Likes Or Comments On Your Pictures
Does he like or comment on your photos on Facebook or Instagram?
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Go on, go a little psycho, you know you want to. Next time you’ve got a little time to kill, check out his level of activity on other female friends’ profiles (you never know, he might just be REALLY into this summers’ range of seafolly bikinis…) If you’re the only on getting the social loving, then take your little private-eye activity a step further. Analyze which images he likes; if they tend to be photographs of yourself rather than landscapes or group shots, then start smiling. Read his comments for further clarification, and obviously NEVER tell him about your little adventure in the crazy land!
10. He Contacts You During The Day
If a guy only ever contacts you late at night, especially on weekends, chances are that he is only after one thing. Don’t try to rationalize it, it’s seriously NOT the “only time he has free for texting”. If, however, he is regularly taking time out of his busy day-to-day life to send you messages between the hours of 9am and 5pm then, more often than not, you can consider it one of the signs a guy likes you. Of course, you should pay attention to the hours that he works. If he regularly works night shifts, an overnight text might not mean a booty call, but rather that he was thinking of you on his lunch break. (you beat his burger – WIN!)
11. He Adds Kisses At The End Of Messages
It may seem obvious, but does he add kisses or something cutesy to the end of his messages? The method of messaging is also important here; it’s much more common to add a kiss to the end of a text than it is in a Facebook message, Instagram comment or a WhatsApp conversation – however, if your text includes three kisses… well, that’s not common at all.
12. He Invites You To Events
When you log into your Facebook account, are you bombarded by event invitations all sent to you by the guy in question? If he is regularly inviting you to events, it is likely that he is doing so as he wants to bump into you there. Whether it is an invite to a party, gig, or concert where there will be lots of people, or an intimate dinner at a mutual friend’s house, he is requesting the presence of your company because he enjoys spending time with you.
Not sure I’ve covered it all? Comment below if you can think of any other signs a guy likes you through his social media activity.
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About Claudia Cox
Claudia Cox is a modern communication expert who gives singles and couples alike the tools they need to improve their relationships. She is the creator of The Text Weapon Texting Club, and the author of French Seduction Made Easy. She loves the outdoors, baking tasty treats for friends, and of course, texting.
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How do you tell if a guy likes you through social media? ›
- Sign #1: He sends a DM.
- Sign #2: He Sends Messages Regularly.
- Sign #3: The Quality of Messages He Sends.
- Sign #4: He Likes Your Posts Serially.
- Sign #5: He Often Comments on Your Posts.
- Sign #6: He Uses Suggestive Emojis.
- When he looks at you, he can't help smiling. Once I was out with Sam in a cafe. ...
- He always finds excuses to talk to you or spend time together. ...
- He asks you a lot of personal questions. ...
- He remembers the little details about you. ...
- He always makes an effort to keep the conversation going.
- He is touching you.
- He remembers small details about you.
- You two are social media friends.
- He gives you eye contact.
- He makes an effort in the conversations you have.
- He's using “alpha” body language.
- He asks if you have a boyfriend.
- He gets jealous when you talk to other guys.
If a guy is just being friendly, he'll usually talk to you in a casual way. He'll ask about your day or what you're up to, but he won't get too personal. If a guy is interested in you, he'll want to know more about you. He'll ask about your hobbies, your family, and your dreams.
How do you tell if a guy is interested in you or just being friendly? ›- He makes it a point to maintain eye contact. ...
- He seems awkward around you. ...
- He gauges your reactions. ...
- He talks about you. ...
- He goes out of his way to strike up a conversation with you. ...
- He regularly makes the first move. ...
- He always tries to be near you.
- He smiles and laughs around you.
- He compliments you.
- He makes eye contact with you.
- His posture is open.
- He leans in close to you.
- He touches you often.
- He faces you in a group.
- He removes objects between you two.
They may listen to some things but do not always pay close attention. If you notice that someone remembers everything about you then they may be attracted to you. Things like remembering your birthday or the meal that you enjoy the most are all signs. Often they will ask you questions to get more details about you.
How do you know if someone fancies you? ›- Body language. You can tell a lot about whether someone likes you through body language. ...
- Shy looks. These are quite easy to look out for. ...
- Eye contact. This can be a confusing one. ...
- Touchy subject. ...
- Taking the initiative. ...
- Two way traffic. ...
- Serendipity. ...
- Just like you.
- #1 “I hate my ex” ...
- #2 “Be a man” ...
- #3 “Your friend is kinda hot!” ...
- #4 “Prove how much you love me” ...
- #5 “I can help you shop!” ...
- #6 “Sometimes you tend to remind me of my ex” ...
- #7 “Your friends or me?” ...
- #8 “You're going grey or you've gained weight”
- He laughs at your jokes even when they are dumb. ...
- He asks your opinion on things. ...
- He avoids revolting topics in texts. ...
- They introduce you to their family and friends. ...
- They go out of their way for you. ...
- They invest in you. ...
- They commit to future plans.
How do you know if someone loves you secretly? ›
- He Craves Quality Time With You. This is probably one of the main signs he secretly loves you. ...
- He Can't Stop Staring At You. ...
- He Remembers the Tiniest Details About You. ...
- He Always Tries to Impress You. ...
- He Barely Uses His Phone While Around You. ...
- He Includes You in His Future Plans, Always.
- He's inconsistently responsive to messages or just ignores them. ...
- He doesn't make time for you. ...
- He avoids contact during major holidays. ...
- He doesn't acknowledge the relationship on social media. ...
- He states that he's not ready for a relationship.
- Builds Communication. ...
- Lets His Guard Down. ...
- Displays A Healthy Jealousy. ...
- Appreciates Your Presence. ...
- Observes Even The Small Things About You. ...
- His Eyes Talk. ...
- He Is Playful Around You. ...
- He Goes The Extra Mile For You.
Eye contact is one big indicator, as well as frequent smiles and laughter. An open posture and facial expression are also signals of attraction. Acting fidgety or nervous, or blushing and getting sweaty palms, is also a sign that someone is attracted to you.
How do you know a flirt is serious? ›4) Excessive smiling and/or laughing.
If he listens to everything you say, laughs at your jokes, is always smiling or giggling at you, this is a sign of serious flirting. These actions show that he is happy and maybe even a little nervous.
A flirty guy will talk about his love life, best date, romantic nights, and related topics. The reason is to allow you to have a glimpse into his romantic side. If he is friendly: A friendly guy will talk about his interests, hobbies, work, etc. They will rarely mention anything related to their love life.
How do you know if a guy finds you irresistible? ›- He loves to make eye contact. ...
- He admires you when you're dressed. ...
- He likes shopping for you. ...
- He loves creating memories with you. ...
- He loves looking good. ...
- He wants to spend time with you. ...
- He suppresses his ego with you. ...
- He accommodates your excesses.
- 1) He wants to be close to you. ...
- 2) He teases you. ...
- 3) He follows your social media accounts. ...
- 4) He makes excuses to spend time with you. ...
- 5) He gets nervous around you. ...
- 6) He compliments you. ...
- 7) He talks about you to his friends.
A man is most interested in a relationship when he feels he has something to offer and share. When he feels good about himself and his work, he wants to share that with a woman. The more competent he feels in the presence of a woman: The more attracted he'll feel to her.
Can you feel someone attraction? ›Can you feel when someone is attracted to you? Yes. When someone feels you are an attractive person, some things come up between you that aren't there otherwise. The clues aren't always obvious, but you can see some of them by paying attention.
What is 1 thing that destroys a relationship? ›
Doubting Your Partner
People who tend to doubt their partners can never thrive in a relationship. Trust is one of the most critical parts of a healthy relationship. If trust is missing, nothing can be done. Just think how long an individual can justify his/her integrity.
- 1. “ I Appreciate All You've Taught Me.” ...
- 2. “ Your Children Are So Kind.” ...
- 3. “ Your Friends are Great” ...
- 4. “ I've Always Trusted Your Decisions.” ...
- 5. “ You're a Great Cook.” ...
- 7. “ You Get More Patient Every Day.” ...
- 8. “ You're 'Man Enough'” ...
- 9. “ You're So Creative.”
- Dress up confidently. Take pride in dressing up and embrace yourself like the queen. ...
- Make him smile. ...
- Take a stand for him. ...
- Smell great. ...
- Take an interest in his hobbies and interests. ...
- Carry your style. ...
- Try to be his friend. ...
- Be yourself.
A situationship is that space between a committed relationship and something that is more than a friendship.
What are the physical signs of love? ›Physical symptoms
“Butterflies” might sound nice, sure — until they make you feel like you need to throw up. When you see, or even just think of, the person you love, you feel tense and nervous. Your heart begins to race, your palms sweat, and your face flushes. You might feel a little shaky.
- Their Texts Are Engaging. ...
- They Start Saying “We” ...
- You Use Nicknames. ...
- They Start Using Heart Emojis. ...
- They Start To Open Up. ...
- They Text First Thing In The Morning & Last Thing At Night. ...
- They Actually Go To Bed When They Say They Are.
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They'll try to keep always keep an open line.
- They message often.
- They use Emojis.
- They pay close attention. ...
- They accommodate your platform of choice.
- He comes on strong. ...
- He says he's “open” to a relationship. ...
- He makes sex jokes early. ...
- He only texts you late at night. ...
- He doesn't ask personal questions. ...
- He asks for sexy pics. ...
- He gives over-the-top compliments. ...
- He won't introduce you to his friends.
They may listen to some things but do not always pay close attention. If you notice that someone remembers everything about you then they may be attracted to you. Things like remembering your birthday or the meal that you enjoy the most are all signs. Often they will ask you questions to get more details about you.
How do you know if someone fancies you? ›- Body language. You can tell a lot about whether someone likes you through body language. ...
- Shy looks. These are quite easy to look out for. ...
- Eye contact. This can be a confusing one. ...
- Touchy subject. ...
- Taking the initiative. ...
- Two way traffic. ...
- Serendipity. ...
- Just like you.
How do you know if he will confess? ›
- He keeps reaching out. ...
- He holds eye contact with you for longer than 3 seconds. ...
- His behavior is incongruent to his words. ...
- Or, on the other hand, he does exactly as he says. ...
- He tells you things he doesn't say to anybody else.
- Increase physical contact. ...
- Buy him a drink. ...
- Compliment his appearance. ...
- Groom him. ...
- Establish an inside joke. ...
- Ask him about his wheelhouse. ...
- Talk closely and privately. ...
- Drop a big hint — literally.
- He Craves Quality Time With You. This is probably one of the main signs he secretly loves you. ...
- He Can't Stop Staring At You. ...
- He Remembers the Tiniest Details About You. ...
- He Always Tries to Impress You. ...
- He Barely Uses His Phone While Around You. ...
- He Includes You in His Future Plans, Always.
- 1 They reply quickly.
- 2 They initiate conversation.
- 3 You spend all day messaging each other.
- 4 They tell you when they won't be available.
- 5 They give you compliments.
- 6 They're interested in getting to know you.
- 7 They show they care about you.
- They ask you for money. ...
- They warn you about themselves. ...
- They say "I love you" within days. ...
- They won't send you pictures. ...
- They give vague answers on their profile. ...
- They talk about their ex. ...
- They go heavy on the sweet-talk.
- 1. “ ...
- Everything so perfect about him, but something just feels off. ...
- He's super confident – Almost cocky. ...
- He's coming on too strong at the very beginning of knowing you. ...
- He tries to move things too fast. ...
- He texts you late at night only.